ONE FM91.3 Radio DJ, actress, and host Melody Chen is not your typical, everyday mum. Having faced with numerous setbacks in the past few years ranging from miscarriages to failed IVF, her natural pregnancy last year took her completely by surprise. The proud mother of 2 has taken to motherhood like a duck to water, expertly juggling her time between work and family just few months after giving birth. With this family of fighters now in the pink of health, we sit down with Melody Chen to catch up with her on her newfound responsibility as a mother.
Carrie K: Hi Melody, thank you so much for doing this interview. First and foremost, how did you feel when you first found out you are going to be a mother?
Melody Chen: I was mostly in shock. It took me a long while to believe that I could possibly be a mother at the age of 40.
How did you feel when you first held your babies in your arms?
I was overwhelmed with unexplainable emotions. As they were born prematurely, I didn’t get to hold them close immediately. Hence, after a few weeks’ worth of excruciating wait, the tears came gushing out. when I finally held them in my arms.
What surprised you most about being a mother? What do you love most about it?
I am still surprised yet thankful that I managed to grow two little human beings within me after being faced with multiple adversities in the last 10 years. So far at this stage, I love how a mother’s heart expands unconditionally for her children as she watches them grow up with each passing day.
I understand that you are a fitness junkie, with your regular cardio and High-Intensity Training workouts. How has motherhood changed your lifestyle?
Admittedly, I used to be a lot more active in the past as compared to the last few years. My lifestyle was already extremely active and highly stressful, so I had to slow down a little in the last year and streamline my workouts, so Pilates took up most of my fitness regime. Currently, as a mother of newborn twins, it has been challenging to find the time to do my workouts. However, our daily routines are becoming more comfortable now as they are getting older, so I will be able to plan in proper workout sessions soon.
What's the hardest thing about being a mom?
I find it hard to not give myself grief for challenging situations with the babies. With this newfound responsibility for your children, I feel the need to be the best I can be and bring them up the best way possible. Obviously, this is an impossible task which is constantly peppered with difficulty, so I am still learning to let go and let things flow.
What’s your greatest wish for your children?
My greatest wish for them is to be decent human beings when they grow up. To be an asset to society instead of a liability.
Why did you pick these letters and birthstones for your Morse Bling Rings?M
are our family’s initials. September is the month that the babies were born.
As a gift for a mother, why do you think MB is fitting?
As a busy mother, jewellery is always kept to the bare minimum. Hence, I find the delicate subtlety of the MB rings precious and perfect.
What was the transition like when you went from being someone’s child to someone’s parent? How long did it take you to really get used to the idea?
Abrupt but gratefully welcomed. The idea of parenthood is still sinking in, but I actually reflect a lot more as my parent’s child in recent times, now that I have to think about the values I want to instil in my own children.
What’s one thing about your mum that you would try to emulate?
My mother has the biggest heart on this planet. She often goes above and beyond to help others and her caring nature always made me feel loved every day, so I would definitely hope to emulate that with my children.
What’s one thing that your mum did for you that you would do differently for your children?
My mother rarely has any flaws but if there’s something that she did do in the past, I would try to travel more with my children instead of working so hard to let them experience it with others instead.
What’s one lesson you learnt from your mum that you would pass on to your children?
My mum has always supported me in everything that I have done. Thus, I too hope to be that pillar of support for my children whenever and wherever they need me.
Finally, do you have any advice for New Mothers/ Mothers-to-be?
As there is no perfect parent, there is no perfect child either. Try not to give yourself grief over things that don’t seem to go according to plan. There will always be things beyond your control when you nurture another human being… Just go with the flow and enjoy the process of being a mommy.
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